What If I Don't Know My Goal?

Posted on 5 May, 2018 at 0:50

When I talk about coaching and the GROW methodology, people sometimes say, "but does that mean I need to know what my goal is before I come to you?"

The answer is no, you don't.

Some people, it is true, come to me with a goal or project they want to work on. Perhaps it isn't quite clear and they want to identify the exact goal. Or they know exactly what they want, but don't know how to put it into action. (I work with a lot of people who are tremendous "starters", having more ideas in a week than most of us have in a lifetime, but who are just not "doers" or "completer/finishers". Their frustration comes from their ideas being unrealised.)

At the other end of the scale are the people who are feeling a bit adrift. They know they want something in their life to change, but have no idea what, how or when. (This is something with which I identify, as this was my state when I first came to coaching as a client.)

With the people who know their goals, that's where we start and we build from there.  With those who have no idea, we start with the Reality and out of that, gradually the goals emerge.

The key with coaching, for me, is that although I use GROW as a tool, in truth it isn't about completing a stage, ticking it off and moving on. It is about a process and a flow. The GROW model is often drawn as a lovely, straightforward circle, but in action, because of the fabulously untamed way the mind works, ideas spark other ideas, which spark more ideas, any of which can fall anywhere within the GROW circle. My role as coach is to hold the space, let all those thoughts flourish and then help the clients to develop and organise them.

One of the fascinating things I have discovered through all my hours of coaching is that even when someone comes to me knowing what their goal is, there are often times when having had the freedom to talk freely, imagine and engage in the process, their goals have become bigger, altered or a whole new goal finally admitted out loud!

So whether you can see where you want to be in 5 years, or can't see beyond next week, the coaching process supports you and helps you define what you want to achieve.

Categories: Coaching