|Posted on 5 May, 2018 at 0:55|
This is a question which came out of talking about coaching with a prospective client.
I did not question the meaning of ‘better’ in this context. It could have meant better as in opposite to ‘not well’ or better as in more accomplished. Neither is relevant to me because when someone, perhaps like you, wants to work with me, I don’t regard you as in need of being improved, of being fixed, of being made better. I come from the attitude that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
You know your life, your business, your ideas best. You generally know what works for you and what doesn’t. You often know what you really want to do with your life. You often know what is holding you back. However, sometimes that knowledge, those instincts, have got buried. You could have so much going on that you just can’t focus. Or your thinking has been going along one track so you end up not being able to see the wood for the trees. Or you have been scared to voice your thoughts in case you look foolish. Or a thousand other perfectly sound reasons why you are stuck or unclear.
I am not a therapist. I am not here to cure you or tell you ‘how to’. My job is to create a safe space, be an objective cheerleader and ask questions to pull the answers out of the best expert in the room on you - you. I can offer different viewpoints for you to think about; ideas which might not be right, but which you can try on for size; opportunities to drill down to what you really think and feel about your situation; a place to be accountable so you can follow through on your actions.
It is not a coming together of fixer and fixee, like a mechanic with a broken bike. It is a collaboration between facilitator (me) and expert in the life of you. During the course of the collaboration, you may develop, have breakthroughs and find out new things about yourself, but that is only because it is all hidden inside you anyway, like the golden glitter inside a firework.
Sometimes, all it needs is someone to light the spark.